Hmmmmm where should I start?!?
Well......
First, let me say that this picture was taken by a couple of good friends of mine at The 429. If you don't know what The 429 is, then the next thing I should say is, GET YO LIFE! Ha! Just kidding.....but The 429 is a fiyah young adult ministry group that meets every saturday night at 6p and 8p for saturday night worship and Word service. It's pretty great, I must say. But anywho, let me get to the point of this bloggity blog:-) Btw, I live in Houston, TX, so ya'll don't be lookin for The 429 if you not in Htown cuz you prolly won't find it lol....
So anywho.........
On this night, while hanging out with friends, there was a lot of discussion about my kinky n free curly mane. Folks were reallllly marveling over it. Particularly, I think, because a lot of people there had not seen it worn out wild and free before. Now don't get me wrong, I'm pretty used to my hair catching a lot of attention when I'm out and about, but lets zero in on that point for a bit. Cuz I'd like to explore it;-)
This pic says 1000 words because this hair can sometimes bring out underlying disdain and/or insecurity from men and women alike. It's almost as if, when my hair is around, all of the sudden men start frowning at other women's weaves, or women start re-evaluating their haircare practices due to the comparisons being made by the MEN. Geesh guys, don't be so hard on the ladies that don't rock #TeamNatural...lol. I just feel some type of way about this ya'll:-/
It honestly makes me a bit uncomfortable because I don't believe that this natural hair movement is meant to make men look down on women with weaves, but rather encourage women to wear their own God-given hair confidently. That's it!! Though, it seems that it may be having an adverse effect. What do ya'll think?
My hair gets shown a lotta love and It sometimes just feels.... so awkward:-/ lol Its like the ladies around me are being judged:-( Also, I wonder if sometimes men recognize that their comments and admiration can bring out self esteem issues that many woman/girls have surrounding their hair. Then again, I wonder if I should really feel this way....but I can't help but notice the dynamics around these situations. It's quite interesting.
I thought I should share my thoughts about it and see what ya'll think??? I mean, technically, if a woman is insecure or jealous, it makes no difference what that man says or does. Its a problem within herself that needs to be rectified. Yet still.....I think it's worth talking about, and thinking about, and just overall being mindful of as a community;-) Ok bye!
Jaz
